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A Year Can Bring So Much


Like most people, I’m thrilled 2016 is over.

Here’s a chronological breakdown of my year…

My daughter turned 18 at the end of March so I whirlwind-tripped to celebrate with her and my son. We ate out every day, went shopping and hit the movies. Basically the kids skipped school so we could hang out and spend time together. It was a great trip.

Two weeks after getting back we moved into a three-bedroom, 2.5 bath townhouse. The kitchen is adorable and we’ve turned this place into a real home. It’s a great place with room to move around. Small, quiet neighborhood and closer to our jobs. Our landlord is nice and our neighbor shares food he makes. It’s a win-win.

On May 15th my mom passed away. I went back up and took care of all her affairs, cleaned out her apartment and handled it very business-like. It’s finally hitting me, eight months later, I mean really hitting me, that she’s gone. I went through all the stages one goes though and have apparently saved the actual sad part of grief for now. We all process loss differently.

My boyfriend’s mom and sister came down and spent a few days with us in early June. He entertained them while I worked and we all took a day trip to New Orleans (a bittersweet experience). It was wonderful having them here, getting to know them. I hope they make the trip, again.

Somehow we both managed to get the week of Thanksgiving off so we drove up to St Louis to see his mom and sister. It was awesome – in the truest sense of the word. We visited the Arch and rode it to the top, hit the zoo and accidently attended Mass at the St Louis Cathedral Basilica (the Cardinal was in town!). Words cannot express the beauty in that church. The whole trip was great and I can’t wait for the next time.

I have thanked my man more than once for sharing his mom amd sister with me.

Work has kept me on my toes. We “lost” a store manager and 3 associates in a six-week period. Then another manager was in a major car accident and out for 11 days. Needless to say I’ve been busy at work. Last month I had 6 days off – 1 of them was Christmas (whole company was closed). Things will be changing on this front this year. Probably going full time, supposedly getting a cost-of-living raise, and potentially spending 1 day a week visiting stores in my area as an unofficial in-house auditor.

Writing was quite non-existent. I wrote very little; just didn’t have it in me. I’m a supporter of writing to facilitate healing, and I totally need to take my own advice, but I don’t know where to start.

Which brings me to goals for 2017…

  • Write more.
    • Actually finish one of my WIPs and prep it for publishing at the end of the year.
  • Get healthy and hopefully lose some weight.
    • Make better food choices – first up: no chips! 
    • Get back into yoga and meditation.
  • Be out in the world more (ASA membership and council participation will help satisfy that part).
  • Develop my spiritual path more deeply (ASA, again).
  • Read more.
    • Fiction, nonfiction, whatever. I just need to read.
  • If it doesn’t make me happy, it goes away. Life is too damn short to fill my life with bullshit. Basically, I’m going to drink my own kool-aid.

Oh, and I turned 40 last month!

    Let 2017 be amazing!

    Life Update


    This has been an interesting week.


    Woke up Tuesday with half my face swelled up and mouth pain. I went to the dentist to have a tooth pulled, only to find out it wasn’t just a broken tooth. No, no. That would be way too easy, right?


    They did an x-ray and it turns out that the tooth blew out at the roots. How the fuck that happens is beyond me. Next was a blood pressure check, which was “too high” to do any kind of dental work. So, the dentist guy and I had a talk: I need to get back on my BP meds asap and get medical clearance before any dental work can take place. He did send me home with antibiotics and pain meds. Yay….


    The second adventure of the week was the job interview I had yesterday. After playing email tag for over a month, I finally got an interview scheduled with Aflac. Anyone thinking about getting into the insurance business should know a) you have to be licensed, b) you have to pay for all licensing and background checks and c) it will cost roughly $500. If it weren’t for those last 2 things, I’d be getting ready to train as a sales agent. The guy did invite me to contact him before Christmas should I “come up with the funds”.


    Yeah, no thank you. I’ve had similar offers from Met Life and New York Life. Taking a pass on those, as well. Why can’t I find a nice little office job?!


    I got surprised with some yummy awesomeness from Billy’s Boudin for brunch today. They make the best pepperjack boudin balls…sigh…so good. The rest of my day involved finishing yesterday’s housework, writing and fine-tuning my altar. You know, general stuff. And, this weekend will be relatively low-key: stopping by the NaNo table at the Farmer’s Market and grocery shopping. I’m not sure if we’re hitting the 7-mile yard sale for not.


    Oh, and I found a critiquing partner, of sorts. A guy from the HWWF course and I have been exchanging emails about each other’s writing. He’s offered some great feedback – stuff I just overlooked in the editing process and alternatives in phrasing, etc. With luck, I find the same with the local NaNo group.


    I hope you guys have a great weekend!